Sometimes it can be difficult to move forward, because there’s something from the past holding us back. Something unfinished. Something ignored. I’m creating the foundations of my book, the story of my own evolution … and I’m suddenly aware of some unfinished business of my own. How many times have I told of past experiences as if I’m reading the paper? No big deal. Just passing thoughts. Just betrayal and loss and terror and heartbreak and scrambling uphill to rebirth. No, n

I was working on my writing, today, when it struck me just how impacting our choices can be. We can make what we think is a personal and inconsequential decision, yet it can have incredibly far reaching effect, even to the extent of generations. This can be one of the key reasons for individuals who, taking responsibility deeply to heart, make no decision at all. Fear of those ripples. Fear of the unknown consequences. It can paralyze. Conversely, for more rash individuals, t

Sounds pretty hippy dippy, doesn’t it? And, yet, this can be a common expectation or misconception amongst those considering polyamory. Logistically, this kind of scenario can seem to make sense and even sound ecstatically fun! Everyone living in the same space would cut down on travel time, eliminate anyone from feeling abandoned when a partner is engaged with another, fortify the coffers, provide multitudes for parenting (if there are kids), make light work of chores, allo

A question I hear posed, quite often, within alternative sex and relationship communities, is "Just how "out" should I be, with friends, family, neighbours, work, the world at large?". There are many factors to consider, the most important being, how transparently do you want to live your life? I was forced to this question, almost two decades ago, when my community discovered, through the "confession" of a lover, that I was much more than meets the eye. In the weeks that f